Introduction
Understanding the Narcissistic Phenomenon
The so called ?narcissistic personality disorder' is a complex and often misunderstood
disorder. The cardinal feature of the narcissistic personality is the grandiose sense of self
importance, but paradoxically underneath this grandiosity the narcissist suffers from a
chronically fragile low self esteem. The grandiosity of the narcissist, however, is often so
pervasive that we tend to dehumanize him or her. The narcissist conjures in us images of
the mythological character Narcissus who could only love himself, rebuffing anyone who
attempted to touch him. Nevertheless, it is the underlying sense of inferiority which is
the real problem of the narcissist, the grandiosity is just a facade used to cover the deep
feelings of inadequacy.
The Makeup of the Narcissistic Personality
The narcissist's grandiose behavior is designed to reaffirm his or her sense of
adequacy. Since the narcissist is incapable of asserting his or her own sense of adequacy,
the narcissist seeks to be admired by others. However, the narcissist's extremely fragile
sense of self worth does not allow him or her to risk any criticism. Therefore,
meaningful emotional interactions with others are avoided. By simultaneously seeking
the admiration of others and keeping them at a distance the narcissist is usually able to
maintain the illusion of grandiosity no matter how people respond. Thus, when people
praise the narcissist his or her grandiosity will increase, but when criticized the
grandiosity wi ...